Oct 08, 2017 | Keith Crosby

Family Matters It Takes a Good Husband Part 2

Premise: A healthy family requires a good marriage and a good marriage takes a good husband and wife team. Here are three qualities of a good husband: 

  1. A good husband is a lover.  Ephesians 5:25, 28 ∙ 1 Peter 3:7a ∙ Ecclesiastes 9:9 ∙ Colossians 3:19a
  1. A good husband is a learner.  Ephesians 5:28 ∙ 1 Peter 3:7b ∙ Colossians 3:19b ∙ Deuteronomy 24:5
  • A good husband is a leader.  Ephesians 5:25-33 ∙ 1 Timothy 3:4-5 ∙ Ephesians 5:23 ∙ Joshua 24:15b 

A+ Resources in order of difficulty (least challenging read to most challenging read): Christian Husband by Bob Lepine; The Complete Husband by Lou Priolo; The Exemplary Husband by Stuart Scott; Reforming Marriage by Doug Wilson 


  1. People and their relationships are complex. Human beings sin---daily. This makes being a husband tough. That’s why he has to be all three: a lover, a learner, and a leader. Read and discuss Ephesians 5:25 and 28. We see love manifested in two ways: a willingness to make big sacrifices for the wife and to make more subtle (little is the wrong word) sacrifices for the wife, to love in all things great and small. There are some who would argue that the requirement in verse 28 is the more difficult of the two. Why do you think people would say this?
  2. 1 Peter 3:7, as we heard in the sermon, speaks about being a learner---living with one’s wife “according to knowledge” or “in an understanding way.” Can you make intelligent sacrifices for an individual you haven’t taken the time to understand? Do you think that a wife is more apt to follow and respect her husband’s leadership if she realizes that he loves her sacrificially and seeks to understand and meet her real needs? Can you effectively lead a person (or a group of people) you don’t care about and understand.
  3. Responsibility requires authority. Authority is to be handled carefully and lovingly. How does lover; learner; and leader tie into this in Ephesians 5:25-33 and 1 Peter 3:7? Read Ephesians 5:23. What does this say about a husband’s responsibility to lead? Read Ephesians 5:25---how different is the leadership of Christ and the Christian husband than that of the world? Read Mark 10:42-45.
  4. Often people appeal to poor examples (i.e. non-Christian examples or mischaracterizations of what the Bible teaches to decry or discredit the husband’s role as leader in the home. When Christians resist this biblical teaching how are they challenging the inspiration and sufficiency of God’s Word?

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Simple messages for complex relationships.